Guest Blog! The heart of a gestational surrogate

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By Andrea Muehlhaus


http://www.mybodytheirbaby.blogspot.com/


Hi There! My name is Andrea and I am a gestational surrogate currently 21 weeks pregnant with my first surro-babe.

People ask me all the time, “How do you do it?”

I simply reply, “Why not do this?”

I have a lovely uterus. I have a proven track record of healthy pregnancies and births. I love being pregnant. I love helping people and making a difference in their lives. I have family and friends who support me 110%. So,WHY NOT do this? And better yet, WHY NOT help a couple who otherwise aren’t able to have biological children on their own?

The answer is so simple. I am a proud gestational surrogate because I CAN.

Some things that I look forward to as my surrogate pregnancy winds down:

I look forward to the day that the Intended Parents meet their precious baby that I have carried and nurtured for nine short months.

I look forward to seeing the expression on their faces when they see and hold their baby for the first time.

I look forward to witnessing a family created; a family that I helped to create.

I look forward to all the tears of joy and happiness that will fill the delivery room and I will be so proud of my accomplishment.

I look forward to the moment when the parents are finally able to take their baby home and start their lives together.

I look forward to staying in touch and being a part of their lives as “Auntie Annie”; watching the baby grow; attending birthday parties; and so much more!

I look forward to meeting the grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends.

I look forward to doing this all over again.

Why?

WHY NOT?

Do surrogates become attached to the baby?

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surrogate motherWhen you’re a surrogate, the question usually comes up quite often. Do you get attached to the baby you’re carrying? Do you feel like it’s one of “your own”? Will you get anxiety about handing the baby over to the Intended Parents after delivery?

The answer is usually “no”. For many women, they become surrogates because they want to fulfill the intended parents’ dreams of becoming a family. They understand that their body is performing a function that some others cannot. They realize that the baby they are helping grow will be so welcome in the arms of its intended mother and father.

“I had my own babies to come home and love on,” one surrogate mom said about the issue of becoming attached to her surrogate baby.

Many surrogate moms are also “done” growing their own family, but love the feeling of being pregnant. With surrogacy, the goal is to help families fill a void that a baby can provide. Surrogates know they are making that dream a reality.

“I’ve never had a surrogate friend that missed or longed for the baby. It’s just the way we’re wired,” she said.

In short, surrogates realize they are helping create families for couples who cannot.

Ready to find out more? Contact Shared Conception to have all your specific questions answered.